August 16, 2012
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Reframe
So I'm trying out this thing that I read in a book that tells me about how for 2 weeks when I find myself in a negative state of mind overcome by thoughts that corrode away at my very being, to stop everything that I am doing and take 30 seconds to reframe said thoughts in a positive light in order to reform my pattern of thinking towards certain situations so that I eventually become 'addicted' to positivism.
Personally, I think it's a load of BS, but I also see no harm in trying it out.
Also, this video gets funnier every time I watch it.
I think one of the comments made a very good point about how some people might be offended and consider this sexual harassment, like if a cop were around in America, maybe that guy would have been arrested or gotten a citation.... Yet, if you changed the genders and a woman were the one slapping the asses of the men in the same country, people would probably just laugh and be like 'Ok, yea, that was funny.'
Personally, I think both scenarios are hilarious, but I was just trying to point out how sometimes liberalism does a disservice to society by striving to reach such stringent standards that are nice to hope for, but in reality, are unattainable (for example, a world without poverty) thus creating delusional, unrealistic expectations that force ridiculous protocols and policies on people.
At the end of the day, men and women are different (I say this from a fundamental biological standpoint) and that's just fact. You need to accept it and move forward from there, but sometimes I feel like some 'feminists' take a couple steps back on behalf of their gender by trying to play down aforementioned differences and trying to get men to treat women like men, but in reality that is impossible.
We recently hired a female engineer for our group and it amazes me how much better behaved and sociable the other guys in the office are now. There are a couple of senior guys who have never spoken to me or even acknowledged my existence, let alone walked on my side of the office the entire time I've worked there, but as soon as we hired this girl onto our team.. Surprise, surprise... guess who decides to show up and has taken a sudden interest in the smaller undertakings of us lowly entry-level employees ?? I've learned more about these men's personal lives and had more conversation with them in this past week while this girl has been here than I have in the past year.
There is also this guy named Carl who cusses up a storm every meeting and loves to berate most of the guys about what worthless trashcans for human beings they are as far as the quality of work they produce is concerned, however we bring newly acquired female of the group to the weekly meeting and Carl is talking like he's the talk show host of Nickelodeon, extremely amiable and well-behaved. He even stops himself in the middle of, for the first time, tactfully giving one of our group members tips on how to improve the project he is working on, to directly address the girl and say with this fucking ridiculous smile that shows off all of his teeth, 'Oh, and by the way... If I say anything that offends you in anyway, please just let me know. You can ask these guys, I have a bad-boy reputation sometimes for being a real hardass, but I mean good, I really do....'
I'm actually bothered by this more than amused because
A. In the entire time I've fucking been here, Carl has never smiled at any of us like that nor spoken in such a civil manner. What the fuck? Reverse discrimination much?
B. Carl is like 50-60 years old and just called himself a bad-boy.
Just last week the guy was looking at the lunch I brought in and saying 'What the fuck is that shit you're eating? No wonder you fucking look like a starved child whose parents never had the money to feed correctly, and why the fuck is it so fucking hot on this side of the office? Why the fuck isn't the AC on? They treating you guys that bad around here? I'd go slap the shit out of your manager if I was you. And jesus fucking christ, where the shit is my fucking fuck for brains shithead of a technician? Off fucking himself by sticking his head up his ass as usual? SOMEONE GET HIS ASS IN HERE AFTER YOU'RE DONE PULLING YOUR OWN HEADS OUT OF YOUR OWN ASSES!'
Why don't you talk to her like that huh, Carl? HUH?!?!
Comments (5)
The perks of being female! Less swearing. I have to know, is she pretty? Does it have anything to do with lust or is it just because she is female?
I was told this change in behaviour occurs even in high school. A guy from an all boys school said all the fun in high school stopped when the girls from the partner all girls school switched into the boys campus.
Anyway, it sounds like office morale is going to be loads better in the long term. I can't imagine what it would be like to be treated so rudely long term. That negativity could spreads to the people around you outside of the office.
You should really be thanking her. Interally. If you actually thanked her, that would be weird.
@replacingink - I think the female looks alright. She's not particularly attractive nor is she unattractive, but considering that it is an engineering group and there are only 3 other women besides her...
I thought she was the only female in the office. Can you imagine what the other females would be thinking if they noticed the changes in attitude as well?
By the way, I realised what word could be used to describe the actions of the previous post about you, alcohol and a group of fifteen year old girls (who must have thought you were harmless looking), noble. Everyone seemed to take that post very seriously.
@replacingink - No, I actually can't imagine what the other girls are thinking. I have no idea what anyone is thinking at my job, like whether they are even happy with the work I do or think I am a complete dumbass, subpar human being whose difficulty level of work rivals that of a monkey picking its butt and poking keys on a typewriter.
@Ironstove - well, i say pay extra attention to the other three ladies at work to see how they treat the new girl because i want to know. anyway, i read the first six months at work is just to let you get used to the place. from the sounds of things if you werent doing well, that old rude man wouldve let you know straight away with a fair amount of swearing! so you are probably doing fine!
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